Eclipse of The Heart

While I was washing dishes a few minutes ago, and paying special attention to the thumb nail that is partially torn, about half way down, and now held together by some exotic combination of fake nail and clear polish, I suddenly had a little epiphany and now I think I understand how the Ignorant Slut (IS), also known as XDIL, rationalizes her behavior. Assuming, of course, that she feels any need for a rationale. . .

Goes like this: she did not want him to go to medical school. Not clear what she did want him to do, probably more along the lines of Physical Therapist or Personal Trainer. She really, really didn't want him to go to medical school and made that very clear. They went to counseling. She held her line. He told her there were two things in his life that he loved: her and medicine.

Folks, she's not a good loser. Losing has never been part of her plan. Her sister could talk about that at extraordinary length. She had to realized that he wasn't going to give up on her or on med school. So, she made it as hard as she could. Hated Syracuse so wouldn't travel there to see him, causing him to be the frequent flier. Said she'd move to LA if he got accepted as a transfer student - thought she was safe because they take almost no transfers. But they took him. She reneged. At some point, during the LA part of the story, he threw his wedding ring off a freeway overpass. Later that same year, he asked his sister to design a ring for the IS. Gold and diamonds. Done and done. He tried and tried to keep on loving her.

Long intro to a short theory. My new conclusion: IS thinks she's justified in hijacking almost all the money my son earns and continuing to estrange the kids from their father because he went to med school and she didn't want him to, so now he has to pay for it. There's a little piece in there about how he's supposed to love her, regardless, and was never supposed to leave her and he did stop loving her and did leave her and so there's heavy dues to pay for that.

Well, just as long as there are reasons, huh?